Archive for October, 2009

Men must speak out against rape

Wednesday, October 21st, 2009

Roman Polanski drugged and raped a 13-year-old girl, fled the country and has been living free as an acclaimed film director for over 30 years.

I don’t really know what to say about Roman Polanski. Well, okay yes I do. He’s a scum-sucking rapist who has managed to evade justice for 30 years. What I don’t know is how on earth so many people could be defending him after all of this.

There are some wonderful posts by people who can express their outrage and share their experiences with sexual assault much more eloquently than I…check some of them out on Tari Rocks! and Feministe.

But one thing I can speak about is the need for men to speak out against rape. As many of you know, I’m Transgender, meaning that, in my case, i was born female but for most of my life felt more like a man, and I am now transitioning to living as a man. One of the most difficult parts about my transition is the fact that we live in a horribly sexist culture and some men commit incredible crimes against women.

Doesn’t it make you sick to your stomach to know this man drugged and raped a child? That is not what being a man is about! This is precisely why men must speak out against rape. In addition to needing to unite with women against sexual assault, we also need to provide other boys and men with positive role models. And a big part of being a role model is speaking out against injustice.

Governments and celebrities protecting rapists because they are famous is clearly an injustice, which is why I’m grateful for role models like Jay Smooth and Dwight Furrow who call it out while so many others were silent or, even worse, defended him.

For Jay Smooth’s vlog post calling out Polanski’s celebrity defenders, check out Ill Doctrine

For Dwight Furrow’s post tearing apart media and governmental defense of Polanski, visit Philosophy on the Mesa

To take action against sexual assault, visit RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network).

A Tale of Two Town Halls

Monday, October 19th, 2009

Last week I was reading a story in TIME magazine reporting on changing gender dynamics in Saudi Arabia. The article describes the National Family Safety Program, which was started by a group of women in 1999 in response to widespread domestic violence.  The group is headed by Princess Adelah (King Abdullah’s daughter) and in 2006, they helped write the country’s first laws banning the abuse of women by their husbands and fathers.

Much of the programs energy is devoted to educating Saudi men that they no longer have the right to beat their families. This spring, the program organized a series of town-hall-style meetings around the country.

Its refreshing to see a government sponsor a community-based initiative empowered by women and with the goal of fighting domestic violence and helping families better care for one another.

I should own up to the fact that I know very little about gender in Saudi Arabia, but, I do know a little something about town-hall meetings; my most recent town-hall memories are of tea-bag wielding Americans threatening their representatives to stop improving health care access or else.

I’m not trying to compare and contrast our two countries; I was simply struck by the importance of the work of the National Family Safety Program, especially in the face of the nonsense that was America’s health care town-hall meetings. Here’s to hoping that the NFSP town-hall meetings are successful in improving the future for women in Saudi Arabia, and that America’s health care “town-hall meetings” become a thing of the past.

For more on the National Family Safety Program, click here.

To support health care reform with a strong public option, visit Health Care for America Now!


Spit out the Obama hater-ade

Thursday, October 15th, 2009

Every time I turn around, someone is hating on Obama. So, I in turn, hate on the haters. And lets be honest, they deserve it. On one hand, we’ve got right-wing tea baggers comparing him to Hitler and on the other, we’ve got left-wingers complaining that he hasn’t rid the world of evil in 8 months.

Sometimes I get so weighed down by all the ignorance, impatience and hostility that I forget about all the other people who are celebrating the accomplishments and potential of Obama’s presidency.

So, in that spirit, check out these two badass blog posts in defense of Obama earning the Nobel Peace Prize:

Juan Cole writes a scathing critique of conservatives who mock Obama’s receipt of the award, and lays out the case for why he was chosen:

Barack Obama was given the prize because he is a game-changer. Obama has dedicated himself to reducing and ultimately scrapping the nuclear arsenals that threaten the world with nuclear winter or a destruction of the ozone layer; either event would be catastrophic for human beings’ existence on the planet. Obama has already made a substantial change in relations between the US and the Muslim world. Two years ago we were talking about whether Cheney could convince Americans to go to war on Iran. Now Washington is engaging in direct talks with Tehran that have eased tensions.

Dwight Furrow argues that it is Obama’s commitment to governing from a moral center that prioritizes hope, trust and compassion that has earned him the award:

The decision to be guided by moral purpose is a fateful and monumental act, because it determines whether we approach each day with hope or fear, emotions that regulate our sense of what is possible and what is not. Obama’s rhetoric of hope is not empty and not a mere aspiration. That hope conquers fear is a necessary condition for stable cooperation….All peacemakers have one thing in common—they are willing to take the first step toward peace, which is always a gratuitous act of faith with no assurance it will be reciprocated. Obama has announced to the world that the U.S. is willing to take that step. As with the other recipients of the prize, he confronts destructive forces with an act of generosity. Unlike most of the other recipients, he does so from a position of power. The powerful renouncing power is an event sufficiently rare to warrant celebration despite lacking personal sacrifice.

I really do believe that President Obama is on to something with his leadership style that encourages care and social responsibility. Of course he is not perfect, but as Cole, Furrow, and the goddamn Nobel Committee say, he’s a big time game changer, and thats something we can’t afford to pass up.